Embracing True Biblical Femininity and Traditional Roles

What does it mean to be feminine? What does it mean to be a Biblical feminine woman? Can society ever go back to a place where being feminine and being a lady was important? The time where women were modest and would exude elegance. That time may sound so foreign for many women whose mothers didn't teach them how to be a lady and academia, the media, and Hollywood have done their best to brainwash women into thinking that behavior is somehow degrading. 

However, a new phenomenon seems to be emerging which is many people are longing for a time that most of us haven't lived through or only experienced the end of such a period. Personally, I've experienced life where cell phones weren't important and merely an emergency tool. I've also experienced it being a thing a child had to earn a phone based off of good grades and behavior and even then, it would be a pre-paid phone with limited access. A time when using a landline meant something and people knew the importance of one and believe me there is still a need for a landline. I've experienced family dinner times, watching tv together, going to Church together, mother staying home and an innocent childhood. 

That's not the case for many people even people my age because many of their parents fell for the lies of openly rejecting traditional family values but more importantly openly rejecting Biblical values. Biblical values were at one point the foundation that made this country so great this country was founded on Christian values. The problem was, evil was rising. An evil that a lot of people still don't recognize. Unfortunately, a lot of people didn't recognize such evil and the lies that they have been fed until recently. That's mostly because things are getting too out of hand for them. Many still believe that there was some legitimacy to a more liberal way of life. Which isn't true especially if you call yourself a Christian. There is no gray area in the Bible. The Bible is black and white with red letters. The words of Jesus were in red even still the messages told by Jesus are very straight forward. In fact, God hates indifference and just because times change that doesn't mean and it shouldn't mean that your values should change as well. If anything, your faith and your values should be even stronger especially in the face of a godless society. One of the things that has been done away with is true femininity, true Biblical femininity. 

One of the things I've experienced the most is a mother teaching on what it is to be a lady and to be feminine. Femininity isn't about having so much money to be able to afford the best clothing to fit into the latest trends. True Biblical femininity is about being kind, genuine, submissive, busy in the home, serving others, glorifying God, making time for God, being supportive, nurturing, selfless, not going out of your way to make others miserable, and so much more. A true Biblical woman is also modest and slow to speak and in control of her emotions. Nobody is perfect and while my mother isn't perfect, she did in most part embody a true Biblical woman most of the time and more than any other woman I've known or come across. Now, she wasn't like this all day every day we all have our moments in which our emotions aren't in check and we all have bad days. However, there is a difference between having bad days and having a bad attitude period just for the sake of having a bad attitude. 

Her attitude overall was that of a quiet and meek woman. Not a weak woman but a meek woman. A woman who embraced wifely submission, modesty, beauty, being a homemaker and loving her children no matter what truly no matter what because it wasn't always easy. This is something that is lacking and it's lacking in a lot of wives and mothers of today. A lot of wives and mothers today lack selflessness and true femininity. Even those that say they prefer gender traditional roles still try to modernize traditional roles and true femininity. It's sad and it's harsh but it is the truth. Men shouldn't always be the ones that have to constantly listen about the worst parts of themselves. As woman, we need to be able to be honest with ourselves, with each other, and listen to what others have to say about us especially in terms of how women have really dropped the ball on a lot. Many women don't protect their children, love them, raise and nurture them, respect their husbands, submit to their husbands, love their families unconditionally, and truly embrace being a wife and mom. Many women for the past 100 years specifically the past seventy years have used it as more of a status symbol. 

For better or for worse is said by them during their vows but it's not something truly in their hearts, mind, and soul. Society has always been so quick to point out what men do wrong but never have been so quick to point out when women do something wrong until recently and it's happening in droves. Unfortunately, a lot of women hate this baston of honesty because most of the women getting upset have part taken in all this bad behavior. Behaviors such as rebelling against parents, their husbands, partaking in promiscuity, terrible attitudes, openly disrespectful, disrespecting their husbands, no longer submitting to their husbands, choosing fame and fortune over their families, breaking apart their families because they're bored, and so much more. 

There may very well be a bright side to all of this because things have been so bad for so long especially for the family people are finally waking up. Many people especially men are walking away from marriage and understandably so. Marriage isn't something that women value anymore and the court system makes it easy for women to just get up and walk away and walk away with money and in most cases money these men don't have. However, the bright side is there are women waking up and there are women realizing while they are still young that staying home and taking care of a family seems to be a lot more important than a career. Maybe sometimes things really do have to get so bad for people to wake up and realize how good things were before. 

With all the waking up that many people are doing there is a chance thing can go back to the way they were, or it can be better than before. In terms of embracing true femininity and traditional roles. It may not happen collectively but individually is a very a good possibility, but we need women need to start doing their part. Women need to start embracing true Biblical femininity and the gender roles that God set up for us. Our role compared to a man's role is easy. However, for some reason women have undermined that role so much to the point where it's no longer good enough for them. Even in the church women aren't being help meets for their husbands they want to be equals in terms of authority. We need to be able to teach our daughters, nieces, sisters, granddaughter, and female friends about embracing their Biblical femininity and following the rules that God has laid out for us. A way of life that glorifies God and doesn't go against his will. When we truly follow God’s path our lives change for the better not necessarily easier but truly fulfilling.